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How To Tell if Your Man Loves You? Recently, I was asked this question and I quickly thought of a couple examples. Here’s a longer answer after giving the question more thought.

The average woman is much more sensitive to energy than the average man and she can depend on her intuition to guide her first. A woman who’s connected to her core wisdom and is not afraid of her feelings will be even more tuned to energy.

A good indication is if he answers in the affirmative when you ask him if he loves you and is able to give several specifics about what he adores in you. (Hopefully, he includes internal as well as external beauty in his description.)

Another example is if he thinks of you while you’re apart and shows it by making plans or effort for when you are together. For example, he sends texts that are more than five words or he buys flowers or makes event reservations.

He makes you a priority by making time in his life for you. He actively listens to you and responds kindly and adjusts his behavior (within reason) to address issues that cause you to be uncomfortable.

He doesn’t hurt you on purpose. And when he does hurt you, he apologizes appropriately and makes amends if needed and he doesn’t repeat the hurtful action. (Unless hurting you as part of a kink scene is how you each play, which can be deep and profoundly bonding if you are both in agreement.)

He puts your needs first. He tries to understand you before sharing his perspective. Is he more about getting or about giving in relationship in general? Is he inspired to give the best of himself by being with you?

His actions toward you are consistent with his promises. He follows through so that his actions are congruent with his words and his stated values.

Does he make an effort to show affection in the way that you ask for it? (You have asked, right?) In other words, if he mainly gives you gifts as his demonstration of love, but doesn’t offer praise even though you have told him that praise is what helps you feel appreciated and held in love, then he is not hearing you or adjusting the way he gives to you.

What occurs in your world so that your brain sends itself the message “I’m loved”? According to Gary Chapman, in his book Love Languages, we all have a preference in how we want to receive love. They are grouped into the categories of; Praise, Touch, Quality Time, Gifts and Acts of Service. Decide which is most important to you and tell your partner. In Compassionate Communication we encourage you to turn complaints into requests so the other person can better know how to help you find your ease.

Another good measure is if you can feel his heart. And, can you feel his love penetrating you? What energy emanates from his cock? How does he hold you in lovemaking and energetically in general? You see, you knew all along!

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